Till recently this thought (Money and Matrimony) never occurred to me and my mind was clear about the subject on money and matrimony. They had no impact on me and my life so far, as I treated both as different from each other. I was proved wrong when I saw with my own eyes that Money and Matrimony go hand in hand and not looked at independently from each other. The very thought of it disturbed me but looking at things happening around me I kept my cool and started to dwell on this subject further.
The current happenings around us are real and not virtual. I find the younger generation are in a virtual world and think big in terms of their wants and needs but not doing enough home work to act and win the heart of another person. I agree that money is required by every one of us except an ascetic whose thought process is always about the welfare of everyone in this society unlike us who are selfish and think only about our family who we feel are near and dear to us.
Thus we can see that a situation arises where a person who is in the process of choosing his life partner or soul mate has a different thought in his mind. He believes that the earnings made by him makes him feel low even of his own parents in terms of their wealth and their way of life and also looks up on at the parents of his would be life partner as lower than him. He can accept a person of value, only if he possesses enough money or wealth and assets like a palatial bungalow more than what he has. If you look at the educational and family background of the parents who would be his in-laws they are professionally qualified and cultured but fate has made them not rise up in their life beyond a point for no mistake of theirs. This is called karma theory. What one has done by way of good deeds or bad actions in his previous birth gets carried on to his present birth. Believe me or not, no matter how you perform, you will not be able to go up the ladder in your professional pursuits even though you know you have performed well and continue to do your best. This is what that happens if you believe in the theory of karma. This has been elucidated in “Bhagavad Gita” by way of Lord Krishna’s teachings to Arjuna.
It should be understood that if a person likes the look of another person in his mind and also is cool with the other person’s behavior, outlook, talks and actions he can confirm his approval for her. We can also find persons who will wait and watch looking at different people on different occasions and waiting for any length of time to find his choice of life partner as per his thinking. Being a person of this taste it becomes very difficult for him to make a choice at any point of time since he waits to have a look at some more persons who may have all the parameters and also wealthy. Time passes on and keeps going and he finds himself unable to make a choice at any point of time. This happens as he feels there is always someone who will have all the traits that he is looking for. He finds that his wish doesn’t fructify for a long time and he passes off year after year trying to find a mate of his choice. The end result is that he is unmarried even after his middle age where his youth would have gone. He remains unmarried forever. This is also karma.
The answer, I believe to all the above mentioned aspects of life, lies in what is called contentment. People have desires and are not contented with what god has given them. One can be ambitious but I find people are avaricious. This leads us into a treacherous path and we are pushed into a pit and we cannot climb up thereafter.
Again contentment is misunderstood by many. If you are contented with what you have, others say that you are unable to get more and that is why you mentioned the word contentment. To make others accept and believe you is very difficult and impossible at times. It is because of the unholy combinations and unwanted comparisons being thrust on you to make you feel an unworthy person compared to others. To prove what is contentment beyond a point is difficult. One has to gulp the words of others and remain silent. Remaining silent also conveys the meaning of acceptance. In either way you are caught in the midst of things where you remain where you are and can’t move this way or other.
Thus we find that in this kali yuga, present day life is full of challenges and has to be faced by every one of us in different ways as it poses different situations in front of us. It is not enough if we do different things. We should do things differently. That will make us different from a conventional person.
I find conventions are not liked by many people and family traits are absent as it is not passed on properly from father to child in the primary years (Formative age) and religion has lost its relevance and it is absent as people are not orthodox and have become different. Beliefs are questioned and rituals are not followed and they are forgotten by many. This being the current situation there is no relevance in saying that I have amassed wealth but do not follow my religion or perform the rituals or possess the traits which are called for from me. The very sanctity of husband and wife relationship appears to be missing. It is fading away and will be lost into oblivion. There will be a situation where you do things according to your whims and fancies and make a statement that your children and my children are playing with our children. Is this the matrimonial relationship that we are looking for?
What is right is what each individual thinks in his mind about his own activity as hundred percent correct. How to confront this situation is a million dollar question as there is no right or wrong answer.
I start tending to believe that Money is an important criteria for Matrimony other things being equal. How will anyone decide the quantum of money that one should have? What you may think is sufficient may be inadequate for the other person as his aspirations may be more than your wishes.
Before I conclude I wish to make a statement here.
Everyone wants to show that he is important. We should know that “It is nice to be important but it is more important to be nice”.
I find that nobody has the inclination to listen to your point of view as they think they are always right. To err is human. If anyone has the inclination to know more on this subject I have the time to dwell and share our thought process for our mutual understanding and benefits.
S.SEKAR
Contact: sekrajc@yahoo.com
The current happenings around us are real and not virtual. I find the younger generation are in a virtual world and think big in terms of their wants and needs but not doing enough home work to act and win the heart of another person. I agree that money is required by every one of us except an ascetic whose thought process is always about the welfare of everyone in this society unlike us who are selfish and think only about our family who we feel are near and dear to us.
Thus we can see that a situation arises where a person who is in the process of choosing his life partner or soul mate has a different thought in his mind. He believes that the earnings made by him makes him feel low even of his own parents in terms of their wealth and their way of life and also looks up on at the parents of his would be life partner as lower than him. He can accept a person of value, only if he possesses enough money or wealth and assets like a palatial bungalow more than what he has. If you look at the educational and family background of the parents who would be his in-laws they are professionally qualified and cultured but fate has made them not rise up in their life beyond a point for no mistake of theirs. This is called karma theory. What one has done by way of good deeds or bad actions in his previous birth gets carried on to his present birth. Believe me or not, no matter how you perform, you will not be able to go up the ladder in your professional pursuits even though you know you have performed well and continue to do your best. This is what that happens if you believe in the theory of karma. This has been elucidated in “Bhagavad Gita” by way of Lord Krishna’s teachings to Arjuna.
It should be understood that if a person likes the look of another person in his mind and also is cool with the other person’s behavior, outlook, talks and actions he can confirm his approval for her. We can also find persons who will wait and watch looking at different people on different occasions and waiting for any length of time to find his choice of life partner as per his thinking. Being a person of this taste it becomes very difficult for him to make a choice at any point of time since he waits to have a look at some more persons who may have all the parameters and also wealthy. Time passes on and keeps going and he finds himself unable to make a choice at any point of time. This happens as he feels there is always someone who will have all the traits that he is looking for. He finds that his wish doesn’t fructify for a long time and he passes off year after year trying to find a mate of his choice. The end result is that he is unmarried even after his middle age where his youth would have gone. He remains unmarried forever. This is also karma.
The answer, I believe to all the above mentioned aspects of life, lies in what is called contentment. People have desires and are not contented with what god has given them. One can be ambitious but I find people are avaricious. This leads us into a treacherous path and we are pushed into a pit and we cannot climb up thereafter.
Again contentment is misunderstood by many. If you are contented with what you have, others say that you are unable to get more and that is why you mentioned the word contentment. To make others accept and believe you is very difficult and impossible at times. It is because of the unholy combinations and unwanted comparisons being thrust on you to make you feel an unworthy person compared to others. To prove what is contentment beyond a point is difficult. One has to gulp the words of others and remain silent. Remaining silent also conveys the meaning of acceptance. In either way you are caught in the midst of things where you remain where you are and can’t move this way or other.
Thus we find that in this kali yuga, present day life is full of challenges and has to be faced by every one of us in different ways as it poses different situations in front of us. It is not enough if we do different things. We should do things differently. That will make us different from a conventional person.
I find conventions are not liked by many people and family traits are absent as it is not passed on properly from father to child in the primary years (Formative age) and religion has lost its relevance and it is absent as people are not orthodox and have become different. Beliefs are questioned and rituals are not followed and they are forgotten by many. This being the current situation there is no relevance in saying that I have amassed wealth but do not follow my religion or perform the rituals or possess the traits which are called for from me. The very sanctity of husband and wife relationship appears to be missing. It is fading away and will be lost into oblivion. There will be a situation where you do things according to your whims and fancies and make a statement that your children and my children are playing with our children. Is this the matrimonial relationship that we are looking for?
What is right is what each individual thinks in his mind about his own activity as hundred percent correct. How to confront this situation is a million dollar question as there is no right or wrong answer.
I start tending to believe that Money is an important criteria for Matrimony other things being equal. How will anyone decide the quantum of money that one should have? What you may think is sufficient may be inadequate for the other person as his aspirations may be more than your wishes.
Before I conclude I wish to make a statement here.
Everyone wants to show that he is important. We should know that “It is nice to be important but it is more important to be nice”.
I find that nobody has the inclination to listen to your point of view as they think they are always right. To err is human. If anyone has the inclination to know more on this subject I have the time to dwell and share our thought process for our mutual understanding and benefits.
S.SEKAR
Contact: sekrajc@yahoo.com
