BUILDING RELATIONSHIP

 

Building relationship is a vital thing for every individual. Building a good and a long lasting relationship is more important. Every relationship is not to make me happy but to make me spiritually conscious. Family life can be called a spiritual relationship. The best critic of your life is your spouse.

What hurts us in a relationship? It is the insult that hurts us. Our Ego is hurt when we identify ourselves with our ego. It reacts. Our attitude becomes ‘Tit for tat’. Our Ego misguides to hurt the person whom you loved most. When ego is hurt, we are in a sleeping world (dream world). The actions we perform are unintelligent. You have to wake up from the Ego and become aware of surroundings. Slowly come out from the grip of the ego. Then the grip is weakened.

We go to the next stage called surrender. Accepting the situation as it is, will be our response. We have to respond instead of reacting to situations. There are two planes. One is ego plane and the other is without ego plane.  Conflicts and problems will always be there between individuals. We have to remove Ahamkara i.e. “I” from our mind. We have to do this consciously and be aware of this. We should be aware that our anger does not rise and thereby act accordingly. We should accept the situation as it is, since it is beyond our control. Since we are aware of the situation, we realize that Ego is the problem. Wife or husband is not the problem.

Another point to be noted is the argument between husband and wife. We have to wait for an opportunity to return back to normal. We have to come out of the grip of the ego. The time taken to return back to normalcy has to be gradually reduced. Check the time taken to come to normal behavior after the argument, ego episode. Be spiritually conscious all the time.

Desire leads to anger which in turn leads to violence. If we want to remain peaceful and calm, while in anger, we should not hold any conversation. There is a tug of war between mind and intellect when we are angry. Hence we should be alert during anger.

Since mind is the cause of all problems, we have to make our mind anger-proof by reducing FIR which means,

Frequency of anger can be reduced

Intensity of anger can be reduced

Recovery period (to come to normal) can be reduced.

Happiness lies in one’s state of mind. There is no other way to get happiness. We can measure happiness by the following equation:

                 Happiness = Number of desires fulfilled

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                                 Number of desires you have.

 

Let us try to build a long lasting relationship with whom so ever we come into contact with, which will bring happiness all the time and also enjoy our life to the fullest. After all Life is for living and we should try to live a healthy and a happier life.

 

Be blissful.

 

S.SEKAR – On a spiritual path

Cat has nine lives but I have only one.

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GOOD MESSAGE

 

Someone graduated at the age of 22, but waited 5 years before securing a good job.

Someone became a CEO at 25, and died at 50.

While another became a CEO at 50, and lived to 90 years.

Someone is still single, while someone from his school group has become a grandfather.

Obama retired at 55 & Trump started at 70.

Everyone in this world works based on their time zone.

People around you might seem ahead of you & some might seem to be behind you.

But everyone is running their own race, in their own time.

Do not envy them.

They are in their time zone, and you are in yours.

So, relax.

You're not late.

You're not early.

You are very much on time.

Everything is happening to us according to the Cosmic Law and Cosmic will.

So, continue to put in your efforts sincerely and happily.

 

"Silence isn't empty, it’s full of answers.” Take your time. Time will solve all your problems.

Be Blissful.

S.SEKAR

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Learning from "Kungfu Panda" Movie

 Your story may not have such a happy beginning...

But that doesn't make what you are...

It is the rest of the story what you choose to be..

What ultimately matters is what you choose to be...

From the movie Kungfu Panda. A must see movie for those who want inner peace. 

There is no secret ingredient for success. 

It's simple. Believe in yourself and be sincere and committed. 

S. Sekar 

On a spiritual path 

Cat has nine lives but I have only 

Email : sekrajc@yahoo.com 

Blogsite : ssekar.blogspot.com

Human - Desires = God

 Attachment is a bond which binds.

Attachment, desire, leads to anger and anger leads to frustration and frustration leads to depression and is the cause for Samsara problem and Punarabi jananam and Punarabi maranam, cycle of births and deaths. It is a continuous process.

To get Freedom from Samsara, one has to start doing Self enquiry and do Self discovery and get Gnanam or Liberation from Samsara problem.

When you get Self knowledge you become Self dependent or independent. You know the Art of living your life alone. This is called Aloneness and a Gnani enjoys this.

Samsara causes you loneliness, since you are attached with binding desires.

There is no special secret for success. It is to believe in yourself and do your Dharma. Dharma can be defined as what it is, without which it is not what it is. The Dharma of Sugar is sweetness,without which the Sugar is not what it is.

Say with conviction Satyam Gnanam Anantham Brahma. 

Brahma Satyam Jagat Mithyam. 

Jivo Brahmaiva na paraga.

Finally say I am satchitananda and I am Poornaga.

Be blissful.

S. Sekar

On a spiritual path

Cat has nine lives but I have only one

Email : sekrajc@yahoo.com

Blogsite : ssekar.blogspot.com

When students misuse their talents and skills they become weak and go astray. Misuse of Sense

 How does this misuse take place?

The eyes are misused by looking at undesirable objects.

The tongue is misused by indulging in evil talks. The ears, the heart and the hands are all used in different ways.

Misuse occurs when a divinely endowed capacity or talent is used for wrongful purposes. It is misdirection of energy.

No one should misuse any of the powers with which he is endowed. It amounts to an affront the Divine , which is the source of all powers.

Everyone thinks it is his sense organs--eyes, ears that enable him to experience and comprehend the world. How true is this? 

In the dream state none of the senses is functioning. And yet, one has the experience of seeing, talking, hearing, walking and doing other actions.

What is the eye that sees in dream?

What is the tongue that talks?

There are three avastha for all of us. Jagratha avastha (waking state of consciousness), Swapna avatha(dream state of consciousness) and Susupna avastha (Deep sleep state of consciousness). The fourth is Turiya state where you transcend all. 

In the dream state, the mind does all the functions of the sense organs, which are dormant at that time.

When you feel in a dream, that you are walking through a forest, it is not with legs that you are walking. It is the mind which does the walking. It is the mind that assumes all the people functions of the senses. The entire world is a projection of the mind.

What you see in this world is what you project from your mind.

 

You have to first prepare your mind.( For learning good things, seeing good things and acting good). The mind should be ready for you to do things of higher nature. 

When the mind is properly directed, all the senses will be under control.

When you water roots of a tree, all the branches and leaves will get the benefit."

Be blissful. 

S. Sekar

On a spiritual path

Cat has nine lives but I have only one.

Email : sekrajc@yahoo.com

Blogsite : ssekar.blogspot.com

HOW TO SUCCEED IN EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE.

 Very simple. Follow the following points:

 1.) Your willingness to learn is most important. 

 2.) Follow Standard Operating Procedures. Have faith in what you do. 

 3.) Work hard and strive your best. Put in your best effort.

 4.) Seek help and clarifications when required.

 5.) Be sincere in your work and you will get help from somewhere.

I quote an interesting experience my senior colleague from ACTech, Chemical Engineering had, when he started a Nitric Acid plant in the year 1972.

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It is an interesting debate.

His 2 bits of experience.

Back in1972, I designed and executed a nitric acid and sodium nitrate plant. 20 tpd 53% acid and 8 tpd sodium nitrate plant Hno3 plant fully automatic .Operator at panel board just to watch action as needed. 

Only one experienced BSc in nitric acid could be got. I made him my Production Manager. He had no experience with automation.

I recruited raw Diploma holders in Chemical Engineering.

I trained them in manufacturing process basic PID controller theory start-up and shut down procedures. 

I taught them safety in handling bulk ammonia and acid. The ammonia stream has 9 auto safety shut downs. Sodium nitrate neutralization with soda continuous evaporator and crystallization. batch centrifuging and continuous drying. I got only one Chemical Engineer for process improvement etc.

The Nitric Acid plant was running smoothly and successfully by me. 

The lesson I learnt, to be successful is:

- Willingness to learn.

- Follow SOP. 

- Seek help and clarification. 

- Work hard.  

It just took 3 to 4 weeks. after 3 months no need for detailed supervision.

Source: Dr. Mohanta - Very old student of ACTech, Chennai.

Be blissful. 

Sekar's collections

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YOUR ABILITY AND YOUR THITHIKSHA (endurance) IS Within YOU, To FACE SITUATIONS IN Life.

 

Ability of a person is not

How he has planned, 

But how he stands And

Faces the challenges of Life, 

When Everything 

He planned 

Has gone wrong...! 

"Be Confident" 

"Believe in Yourself" 

"Always think You can"

 

If my above message makes you Strong 

Tell me and think of Me when you face difficult situations in Life!

 

Tell Yourself always 

"Life is for living" 

Enjoy your life. Enjoy your time.

 

Remember, I am ever your friend and will motivate you at all situations.

Be blissful. 

S. Sekar - On a spiritual path 

Cat has nine lives but I have only one.

Contact: sekrajc@yahoo.com

Blogsite: ssekar.blogspot.com